Tagged: relationship problem
CHINONSO was my first love, I only realized she was ugly when we broke up. We dated for two years, no sex, according to her, she was a virgin and I wanted our wedding night to be special. As a perfect gentleman, I had to make do with just kissing. One day, I took her to go visit a friend, that was where it all started, she started visiting my friend behind my back.
One day, I overheard a conversation between two of my guys, apparently, Nonso was having sex with my friend and told him that I don’t know what’s up, I couldn’t believe my ears, while I had respected her decision to keep her virginity, she saw it as me being foolish, and truly I was foolish, friends who were already dating told me she was no virgin, but love can make you believe that the white you are seeing is blue.
That changed my perception of relationships, we broke up, although she denied sleeping with him but my guy had already asked for my forgiveness. Fortunately for me, she traveled, that quickened my moving on, months later, she came back, begging for us to reconcile, one thought was coming to my mind “say yes, have sex and walk away”, but I decided to let her keep the memory of the good person I am.
Till today, she still says she has never met a man like me, and I say to myself, girl you met me when my brain was still tabula rasa relationship wise.
After that heartbreak, I am yet to love a woman wholeheartedly like I loved her. That is the effect of betrayal, it affects your ability to trust again.